Mommy Entrepreneur Crystal Calvert shares her journey to entrepreneurship with The Femme Agenda.
I recently wrote an article for the sassy Devonnie Garvey, CEO of The Femme Agenda, and she told me that it lacked personality.
I smiled when I got her message because I knew it was the truth.
So, allow me to introduce myself – I am Crystal. I am a Mother, an Author, Ghostwriter, Publishing Consultant, Blogger and CEO of Moms on the Hustle. I like to call myself a Mommy Entrepreneur.
The word entrepreneur has a lot of meaning to me. I always advocated for self-employment, unable to understand why people would beg other people for jobs when there are so many opportunities for them to utilize.
Even though I had those views, it wasn’t until I became a mother that I embraced the entrepreneur in me. I knew that I didn’t want to leave my kids to go out to work for someone else, so I put all my efforts into making my online business succeed.
It was my children who helped me to put my career into perspective. Strange yes, but before I had them I was working in a field that I liked, but didn’t love. I felt as though I was moving through life because I was supposed to and it didn’t matter that I didn’t love what I was doing.
I didn’t want to simply exist – I wanted to live and to enjoy life in the process. Here’s how my children helped me to pursue my dreams:
1. I Let Go Of My Fears.
The fear of failure was always an issue for me. If I wasn’t certain that a plan would succeed, I would stay on the safe side and not do it at all.
Teaching my kids to be cautious, but not fearful, made me realize that I had to take my own advice. I had to be willing to lay myself open and allow people to scrutinize my work, to judge me as a person, and as a businesswoman. This fear seriously slowed down my progress and growth and though it was a slow process for me, I now realize that in order to be successful, there can be no room for fear.
2. I’m Doing What I Love.
Don’t we all dream of having a career that allows us to do what we love?
Anyone who knows me knows that I love books. They have been my solace my entire life and now I get to write them. I am able to get up every day and write; to disappear in whatever story I’m telling and to find joy in that.
I wouldn’t have been able to do this if I hadn’t made the decision to work from home. I didn’t know that I could make a living from telling stories. This has been one of my greatest joys.
3. I Work Smarter, Not Harder.
While pregnant with my son, I realized that I had to put my business into perspective and truly decide on what I wanted to do. I was making a lot of money, but I was always tired and burned out. I also wasn’t spending enough time with my daughter because I was always on my computer or I was always distracted when I was with her.
This, to me, defeated the whole purpose of why I wanted my own business. I should be able to do whatever I wanted, when I wanted. What sense did it make to work from home if I wasn’t able to spend time with my kids, which was why I started in the first place?
During this period of reevaluation, I decided that I would only accept jobs that fit into the vision and plans that I had for my businesses. I wasn’t going to just take a job for the money or for it to be another notch on my belt. It had to be another step towards my ultimate goal. If it didn’t fit in with my plans, then I pass on it.
That decision has been very rewarding because I now have more time to work for myself. I have been able to focus on building my businesses without feeling burned out. It is easier for me to say no to projects that don’t make sense for me and I have the time that I need to do what I love – be present with my family.
Family is ultimately what makes me happy. I am not one of those people who just want all the money in the world and can be content with that. I knew that no amount of money could make me happy if I didn’t have my kids. I didn’t have a secure family unit and that was why I decided to have kids. I always yearned for that comfort and security that comes with family, but I also wanted the comfort of financial security. The secret is finding a balance.
Find it and you will experience immense joy.
My two little people pushed me to find my balance and it was the best decision I ever made.