As I sit here writing this post for you all, its 4:04am. I can’t sleep for some reason, and I realize that it’s because a lot has been on my mind as of late.
The past few weeks have been a time of great self-discovery for me. I finally launched my copywriting business, and I’ve been doing a lot of introspection. Some of it has been painful.
Still, I’ve come to learn many new things about myself, and it feels good.
One of the things that have been on my mind is the whole concept of being “comfortable.” No, I’m not talking about comfortable like a pair of shoes, or your favorite t-shirt.
I mean comfortable in life.
The whole concept of being so content in our current state of life that we make no effort to improve it, we make no effort to grow and we take no chances or risks. You trick yourself that you’re fine where you are, with the minuscule things that you’ve accomplished and you make no effort to push yourself.
I think that’s one of the scariest things in life to be.
Growth is essential to your life
Do you realize this? Every single thing in life grows. Imagine what we’d all be like if remained babies. There would be no world, no economy, no nothing – just a bunch of crying children with nobody to care for them. And we wouldn’t even be like that for long cause we’d die without being taken care of.
Plants grow too. What if everything remained seeds and never matured into plants that we can get food, oxygen and other products from? Again, we’d end up dead eventually because nothing can survive without plants growing.
Look at animals. They’re the closest creatures to us in terms of intellect. Yet, if they don’t grow they’ll die. Nature is unforgiving to those animals that don’t grow, or don’t have a wiser guide to lead them through life.
Though most of these examples are about physical growth, the same principle applies to mental growth, which is what I’m writing to you about today.
You need to grow mentally; else you’re agreeing to live only half a life.
Your comfort zone is really a death trap
Think about the act of fishing. Here in Jamaica, fishing is a booming industry and I think it’s the same for most countries around the world. Though I’m not the biggest fan of seafood, I’ll eat it every once in a while – especially if my mom prepares it, I think she’s the best chef ever, lol.
Anyway, how does a fisherman catch fish? He uses bait. Why does a fish take the bait, because it likes it. When it comes to fishing sometimes, a fisherman might even bait the same fish more than once in a row, just to be able to catch it.
I used that illustration because in some respects, we’re just like fish. We’ll go after what we want if it comes easy. We’re lured in and before we know it we’re at the end of our lives wondering, “What just happened?”
Your comfort zone wills you take it easy. It wills you to take the easy way out, or just do what you’re used to so that you’ll never experience any discomfort.
But to me, staying in your comfort zone is a death trap. Life is filled with so many chances to learn, grow and build a better reality, but you decide to just stay wherever you are because it’s comfortable? That’s absurd.
“Imagine if you will, being on your death bed – And standing around your bed – the ghosts of the ideas, the dreams, the abilities, the talents given to you by life.
And that you for whatever reason, you never acted on those ideas, you never pursued that dream, you never used those talents, we never saw your leadership, you never used your voice, you never wrote that book.
And there they are standing around your bed looking at you with large angry eyes saying, “We came to YOU, and only YOU could have given us life! Now we must die with you forever.
The question is – if you die today what ideas, what dreams, what abilities, what talents, what gifts, would die with you?”
– Les Brown
What’s going to die with you in the graveyard of your comfort zone?
Think for a moment about any “dreams” you’ve had. I don’t mean dreams like living in a fancy expansive mansion, or driving a Ferrari. I mean dreams that are fueled by a passion you have that you don’t really get the chance to expand on.
Maybe you’re a great artist. Perhaps you’re the best chef in your circle of friends. Or it could be that nobody can crunch numbers and solve complex financial problems in just the way that you can. Whatever it is, I know there’s something that you’re good at. And I know sometimes you feel that you could be the best at it.
Why aren’t you making a success story out of your passion?
“Well, I wasn’t given the opportunity…”
“My parents didn’t want me to do that in university…”
“I can’t afford to go to University…”
“I have no money now…”
“I’ve already got a job, and even though I don’t like it, it pays my bills…”
“I used to…”
You hear that? That’s the sound of your comfort zone tricking you into thinking that things cannot change because this is all that you know. They’ve got you hook, line and sinker.
First thing, nobody CARES about what you “used to” do. It’s about what you can do, and what you consistently do that makes a difference. Nobody talks about the person that used to, they only talk about the person who does and continues to do.
I’m sure if you delve deeper into the reason WHY you aren’t doing what you want to be doing, you’ll realize that your reluctance to change is rooted in fear.
Fear of the unknown. Fear of trying and failing. Fear of not pleasing your parents. Fear of not knowing where your next paycheck is going to come from. Fear of not living the life everyone thinks you should live.
You know what I find funny? I hear people talk all the time like not knowing where your next paycheck is going to come from is the worst thing ever, when they’ve signed their life away to a company and trade their time for money. That’s hilarious to me.
In my mind, spending six months or a year without a steady income stream to build a system that will pay me whether I work or not for years to come is INFINITELY better than working for an hourly rate till I’m 60.
THAT’S what you should be afraid of. Be afraid of waking up with an aching back or dimming eyes and not having any money to go see a doctor about it. Be afraid of taking your last breath with nothing to show for it other than a pile of pay stubs and an overdrawn checking account. Be afraid of dying with your dreams, or worse yet – watching somebody else make your idea a reality and profit off it greatly.
Please, get out of your comfort zone. Nothing grows there other than regret. (Tweet this)
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